It is the quality of the parent/child relationship which will ultimately influence
the home environment and the self-esteem of the child.

Harmony At Home can help you improve and nurture this significant
relationship.

This is what people are saying...

This course is fantastic! I looked forward to learning more each week and
taking it home to practice, even though it was quite confronting.

It started working straight away and has definitely changed our household
for the better! It all just makes SO much sense – and Clare is amazing, her
active listening skills are something that I’m striving towards.

I think that this course is a must for ALL parents, whether there are behaviour issues or not – it is about how to bring up a happy, confident child and have a good relationship with them – who doesn’t want that!!

With all the time we invest in courses for our work etc. why wouldn’t we invest time in learning about our most important job of all!!!

Sheree, Perth.

Parent Effectiveness Training from a Fathers perspective (from the
Gordon Training International Website)

I am a professor of physics at Yen-Byun University in China. I have two
children, a daughter and a son. I realize now that I was an authoritarian
father. I wanted my children to be excellent and I tried to give them the best education. But my son disappointed me greatly. More and more we became
a pain to each other. On February 24, 1996 my son had to leave for a job in another city and I had planned to go to the airport to see him off. But he had
gone to the airport with my wife. He had gone without saying good-bye to me.
I heard later that he had even gotten into an argument with my wife at the
airport.

That same day I was to leave for Seoul, Korea. My heart was broken and I
was depressed when I got to Seoul. Entirely by chance I met Professor
Rose-Inza Kim at Sogang University. I told her of my depression over my relationship with my son and she suggested I take her P.E.T. course. Thanks
to her assistanceI began the course. It influenced my entire life.

I realized that all parents have to develop new communication skills for their children. I used all kinds of Roadblocks: commanding, demanding and
criticizing. If I had taken the P.E.T. sooner I would have been a much better
father, a good father. For instance, I would have handled the work situation
much better. My wife and I both had jobs when my son was 6 years old so we
had to leave him at the child care center everyday. But he did not like it there.

We compelled our son to go to the kindergarten against his will. Once when
he was in 7th or 8th grade I told my son "What's the matter with you? Get out
of my sight! I hate you!" As soon as he heard this he ran away from home. Although he came back home a few days later my son had hostile feelings
toward me and showed his resistance and anger. He said, "Just wait. When
I grow up I will hit you like you hit me." I was shocked, surprised, and felt miserable. My son began smoking and drinking with his peers. I could not understand him. I became more and more unhappy. "I don't know what to do,"
I exclaimed. "What is the matter?"

P.E.T. was like a shock to me. I applied I-messages and reflective listening in
my daily life. I used those communication skills with my wife and our son. Once
I talked to him on the phone and said "I feel very sorry now about my previous coercive attitude and behavior toward you. It was my mistake. You must have
been very lonely for a long time."

To my surprise my son burst into tears at my words. He cried on the phone for awhile and then said "I have never been so happy in my life like this moment, father, I never dreamed such a thing could happen in my life."

Now, my family communicates our deep feelings and thoughts and we help
each other. I am really happy now. I can never thank my P.E.T. teacher enough.
I hope to introduce P.E.T. in China. It would be a dream come true.

L. Jang-Sup

Why do parents need help?

Along with the belief that parenting should be a natural talent is the fact that parenting is the profession with the most employees and the least amount
of training!

Good parents can get better and struggling parents can learn ways to cope.

Help is at hand at a time when parents need all the support and
encouragement they can get.

Do you experience conflict with your children / teens such as:

• Refusing to go to school
• Refusing to get dressed
• Refusing to eat
• Refusing to clean up, or go to bed
• Issues with TV, Computer, or video games
• Swearing
• Friendship issues
• Answering back
• Appearance
• Not listening
• Self-esteem
• Tantrums
• Bullying

Habits are really hard to break, therefore it is essential to learn good
parenting practices as early as possible.

Harmony at Home can provide you with the skills to deal with all of these
issues without anyone feeling like they have ‘lost’.

You will discover how to meet the needs of your family, yourself and your
children without building up feelings of resentment.